Ready to Glow and Grow? Walk with Me!

I had started out with the best of intentions, but once again I had failed. Or at least, I thought I'd failed. By my standards, I was a complete failure.

What did I fail at? Oh, you name it, I've flubbed it up.

Just because I'd like a little company here, I'm going to assume that you've messed up a time or two as well. Am I right?

Yesterday I posted about how my friend Candy introduced me to the Glow and Grow philosophy for handling our "failure" or even our successes. You might want to read it here. But I thought today, for our Walk With Me Wednesday, we'd walk through this simple process together. And I mean let's really get out a pen and paper (or a journal if you keep one), and put this thing into practice. You might be amazed at how encouraging this simple process can be.

So go get your paper and something to write with. Ready? No, really, go get something to write on and with. Alrighty!

Jot down something that happened in the last day or two that you've regretted a little. It doesn't have to be a big project gone bad or a complete disaster. It could simply be a conversation that took a wrong turn, a to-do list with few checks on it, a promise you broke to your child, or that quiet time that kept getting pushed down in your day and finally never occurred.

Now, let's glow a little in that frustrating moment. That's right. Even in our biggest failures we can usually find something we've done right. If nothing else we had some good intentions, right? Here are a few examples:
Now it's your turn. Look for the silver lining...and bask in it a little. You're not a failure, you know. You may have made a mistake, even a costly one, but you are not defined by that mistake. You glow, girl!

Ok. Before our pride starts excusing our mistakes and blaming our problems on someone else, let's take a little ownership here. The next step in Glowing and Growing, of course, is to grow from our mistakes.

Instead of dooming ourselves with unhealthy labels and pathetic self-talk that says things like, "You always..." or "You'll never..." or "You dummy!" let's determine to assess our mistakes from God's perspective.

For I am confident of this very thing, 
that He who began a good work in you 
will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.
Philippians 1:6

God is still at work in you. You are not defined by your mistakes, but they can be used to perfect you if you own them and learn from them.

So, considering the thing you feel like you "blew," jot down at least one lesson you learned from the mistake, maybe more. Go ahead; write it down. Somehow writing it down has more sticking power than just silently considering it. Here are a few examples uses the case situations above:
Your turn. Remember, don't use the "grow" step to beat yourself up. Instead turn the failure, the criticism, the rejection as a platform from which you can better see how to handle a similar situation in the future. Don't let the failure shut you down; let it compel you toward something better.

You know, gals, we all mess up. I mess up every single day. But we can choose to use those little (and big) failures as stepping stones toward growth, or we can label ourselves poorly because of them and quit. That's not God's desire for your little mistakes... or the big ones. He is our Redeemer. And when we hand Him the good (glow), the bad (grow) and even the ugly (our feelings about it all), He can redeem what we may have lost in the flub-up. He can make all things new.

Would you like to share your Grow and Glow with us? We'd all be encouraged by your transparency, you know!

I'm linking up with Holley Gerth and other bloggers who are offering encouraging words today on Holley's Coffee for Your Heart.

You'll find more Walk with Me Wednesday posts here.